Tantric Sex. Chances are you’ve heard of it from an interview on Oprah, but you have no idea what it is. If that’s the case, then strap yourself in my friends, because you’re about to go on a ride that will change your sex life with your partner forever. And if you’re one of the single ladies reading this, then you’ll learn a thing or two that will bump up the intimacy with the next guy you sleep with to levels you wouldn’t expect.
So what is tantric sex? It’s the art of prolonging the sexual experience in order to concentrate on the act. When you orgasm, you release a ton of sexual energy in that one little moment. Instead of allowing yourself to let it all go, you channel it back into your body for a boost of energy and heightened sexual senses. It lets you and the person you’re dating expand that one short orgasm into a lengthened sexual experience. Ever hear Sting say that he can have sex for 5 hours? Well he’s not just showing off– he really can. Him and his wife have spent so much time dedicated to furthering their sex lives that they’ve all but perfected tantric sex.
Tantric sex is all about enjoying the act. Usually when people fuck, they do it to get to the finish line. No one thinks about the specific nerves that are being stimulated or how their body is reacting to their partner. It’s kind of like a race, you’re running just to get to the end. But if you take away that finish line, then you get to concentrate on your breathing, your running, and what you’re feeling in response to the physical activity. When you don’t work towards an orgasm, then you can concentrate on how what you’re doing feels.
The best way to jump start your intimacy is with the foreplay. Sorry to your boyfriends, but this IS an important part. Building the anticipation in tantric sex is like the sex act itself, and the intercourse is the orgasm. Most people that practice tantric sex start by harmonizing their breaths. This is a little strange for the casual couples because it’s a REALLY intimate thing to do, but the ones who are committed, I suggest giving it a try. Sit in the yab-yom position (straddling his lap with your legs wrapped around each others backs), face each other, and breathe in opposites. When you exhale, he breaths you in through his entire body. When he breaths out, you inhale him. It lets you both concentrate on what you’re doing, which prepares you to get tantric.
Who doesn’t like a good old sex marathon? Doing it this way will let you have sex until you want to finally release the energy, not when you feel you have to. Breathe deep and stretch it out before.. you don’t want anyone getting hurt ; )