When asked, any woman will tell you that the biggest factor of first date anxiety lays in not knowing what your date is thinking. Does he like me? Do I come across differently in real life than I did on the dating site we met on? Does he think this dress is too revealing?
Having your mind always wondering what he’s thinking about your first encounter will distract you from actually getting to0 enjoy the date. Well, Christmas has come early for all you single ladies, because today I’m cracking open the secrets of he’s really thinking on your first date.
Can she hang out with my friends?
On first dates, guys don’t just look for things they like in a girl, they look for things their friends like as well. Why? Well, while you’re busy planning your life together in your head, he’s thinking about the times he wants to hang out with his friends and watch the game at Patty’s Pub. Are you the kind of girl he can bring along, or are you going to clash so bad with his buds that he’s never going to get you in the same room as them without a fight? If they think their friends own’t approve, they’re going to pass before you even get to the first kiss.
Is she just nervous, or does she always talk like this?
There’s only so much small talk guys can take before their minds start to wander. If you’re not having a balanced conversation because you’re mouth won’t stop moving, his attraction isn’t going to grow! There’s a lot to be said about a little mystery. Guys love it when a girl listens on a first date more than she talks.
Can I afford to keep her as a girlfriend?
Yes, you should look your best on a first date and yes, you might want to doll yourself up with a string of pearls. But drenching yourself in diamonds, wearing a Chanel dress and ordering the most expensive thing on the menu isn’t going to impress him, it’s going to scare him off. Even if he’s a Rockefeller, try not to have him seeing dollar signs when he looks at you.
How much of this is she going to tell her friends?
A little chit chat between your closest about your first date is acceptable, but if we do a search of our names and find the deets of our time together on Twitter won’t boast well for you as a girlfriend. Instead of keeping your Blackberry glued to your friends in attempts of giving them a play-by-play of the night, keep your first date between only you, him, and the friends that you absolutely need to tell.
All guys are going to have their own way of gauging how the date goes, so keep his thoughts out of your mind so you can concentrate on your own. The more you worry about how he sees the date, the less you’re going to get to enjoy it yourself.