There’s something all high school sweethearts are scared of when they go away to college, and that’s the Turkey Dump. If you’ve never had a high school sweetheart, let me explain to you what the Turkey Dump is. In your first year of college, you’re usually there until your first visit home at Thanksgiving. That weekend is the weekend of the Turkey Dump, where you eat all the turkey you can, and dump your girlfriend, because you realize how many other options there are out there for you at college.

Facebook released statistics about their site in late 2010, and it showed that the highest break-up rates for young college students was the weekend of and the week following Thanksgiving.

So when is the highest break-up rate for adults? It’s a consistent line throughout the summer.

Scientists attribute the high break up rate to the physical connection people feel between strangers in the summer time. You’re getting more vitamins from the sun which promotes a higher libido, and being surrounded by such little clothing can be tempting for anyone.

Summer isn’t just the time of year when people break up, it’s also the second easiest time to find a match through online dating, beside Christmas.

There’s usually two sides to a break up- the breaker, and the breakee. If you’re the breakee, chances are you didn’t want the break up in the first place, which is why you see the increase of people looking for love on dating sites.

If you’ve just been broken up with during these great summer months, don’t concentrate on the breakup! Put your mind towards finding something, and someone, new to do!

It is rather like the old chat days when people would fabricate names and join chat groups to talk about books, games and politics. After a while they became friends, There were no profiles, no pictures, nothing but the conversation.

So how does it work? Well according to the site owners it is to used very much like one uses Facebook or twitter. In fact you actually pull people from these two social networks that you are interested in meeting and dating. Then you tag them if they are interested in you too then they will be notified. This dating is not sexual orientation restricted. Gay, straight, transsexual, transgender, lesbian, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you are one of the Singles search.

This idea of anonymity is unusual when online everything centers a focus on looks. It opens a whole new world of those people that have used the personals to find a love interest or even a casual sex partner. It allows people to seek out others without being embarrassed that they may be rejected. Members actually know that they know the person they are talking with but they don’t know who it is until they express mutual desire. So a gay man can chat up a straight man without fear too much fear of repercussion. And a lesbian can pursue another female who never dated another woman before. This type of site may be a turning point for online dating. It is hedonistic and at the same time it operates on a new age thoughts. It allows everyone involved to get to know the soul of the person they are talking with before taking a leap into dating.

Today we have gotten past our phobia about meeting someone through the world wide web. Many of us have friends that have meet their spouse or significant other through an Internet dating site, went on to get to know each other and may have eventually gotten married and are now in the process of living happily ever after as far as we can tell. There is no longer any stigma attached to online dating and most of us realize that the people on the online dating sites are just normal, busy people like us, not crazed stalkers or serial killers looking for their next victim. The best way to approach a singles search online is to first take a few moments to consider what it is that we are really looking for in a person. This will help us to narrow down our choices when we are faced with those hundred or so profiles to go through.

We need to be realistic as well as honest with ourselves during this process; there is no reason to think that two people with absolutely nothing whatsoever in common will hit it off just because they find each other attractive. It may also help to use one of the site that employs a questionnaire so that we know we have a least a few basics in common with the people that are recommended to us via the computer generated matching process.

One of the very worse things you can do, though, is to respond badly to a rejection. No matter what happened – and whose fault it was – being angry and sending a message or such will not help the situation. Keep in mind that the net and the world of online dating is actually a very small one and a bad reputation can spread very fast and acting poorly can do nothing but give the person rejecting you a reason to pass your bad behavior around. Beyond that, if there is any chance of a possible reconnection behaving badly will do nothing but ruin your chances of it.

A good way of handling rejection – beyond understanding that everyone gets rejected at one time or another – is simply to move on and try to learn from your mistakes. While rejection really does happen to everyone there is no reason why it should make your future in online dating a poor one. Like life, sometimes you just have to move on when something bad happens. And just as we all know and have been told to a sickening degree all through our dating life: there really are plenty of fish in the sea…especially the warm waters of online dating

Teasing is a fun part of relationships. It’s the easiest way to flirt and lets you say what you’re thinking without actually having to say it(I mean, which girl hasn’t used the old ‘That girl has the bag I want! I guess she’s got a pretty good boyfriend to buy her something like that’ joke to get something you wanted??). But guys have very fragile egos and it’s easier than you’d think for that harmless flirting to turn into an offensive insult that stays on his mind.

If you’re one of the 80% of women who use teasing in their flirting style, make sure that you’re avoiding these 4 teasing red zones:

Balding jokes are always offensive!

Whether you’re lightheartedly joking about the fact he’ll go bald like his dad, or you’re pointing out that his hairline has changed over the years, balding jokes are always a bad idea. Even if your man has a full head of hair, it’s a pretty safe bet that his deep-down fear is that his luscious locks are going to be gone one day. Putting that thought in his head will drive him wild– In the bad way! If you’re talking about his hair, make sure it’s only ever compliments.

Mo’ money jokes, mo’ problems.

A mans wallet has a direct line to his ego. He could make a great living for himself, but the slightest joke about his bank account statements will leave him feeling bad about his bucks. Treat money conversations with your man as you would with your friends– Only put in your opinion about money when asked for it, and try to keep a positive spin on things.

“Look babe! I told you I’d be taller than you in these heels!”

In a survey done by GQ Magazine in 2009, they found that the actor men would least want to be is Tom Cruise. Pretty surprising since he’s had two stone cold sexy wives, a great acting career, and millions of dollars in the bank. Why are men so opposed to being Cruise? Because he’s a little fella! Much like most women feel they would look better skinnier, most men think they would look better taller. Pointing out your boyfriend is vertically challenged is like him pointing out you’ve put on 5 pounds since last month. It may be meant as a joke, but rarely is it ever taken as one!

Any teasing about his favorite member should be forbidden. Always.

Teasing your man about anything related to his penis– size, shape, color, hair, anything– is the biggest insult you can sling towards him. Even when you tease about something you think is a compliment, it can be taken the total wrong way. Saying something like, “You’re looking bigger than usual!” may seem to you like you’re telling him he’s well-hung, but it sends his mind into negative-overdrive with thoughts like, “Bigger than usual? Am I usually small?” Teasing about anything below the belt is, well, below the belt!

Keep these four topics out of your teasing so you don’t wind up date-blocking yourself by accident.

In dating this comes down to not only looking for not just look for sex and sexual contacts but, instead, looking for friends and even a good romantic match.

Let’s face it, the well-rounded adult, or at least those of us hoping to be all have things in our lives that we enjoy – in life as well as sex – but they came into our lives through sometimes very unusual ways. So if you want to find new things to enjoy you simply have to be open to them – and by looking for just what you like then you are closing off those new, possible, venues. This is why online dating really is so wonderful as a huge world is open to us through the net and a huge population of people we might not ever experience otherwise.

What better place to have possibilities find us and we them? What better facility then those we find online to bring is the full range of a good sex life, good friendships, the very best romance and maybe even someone to us that could be someone who lasts in our lives.

So while there is nothing wrong with asking for what you want or looking for what you want it is extremely important to approach the world of online dating open minded – toward accepting new and possibly wonderful new experiences. How could any of us really ever know what is possible unless we get out and about and maybe experience a few things we might not have ever expected?

A part of my new years resolution for 2012 was to keep up with my grooming, even if it’s not being seen. In the past few years I have turned into the kind of girl who only shaves her legs when she knows they’re going to be rubbing against someone elses. I’m serious– The guys at the gym were always in for a hairy surprise when the held my feet down while I was doing crunches.

Since I’m back in the ‘look good to feel good’ state of mind, I’ve decided that in 2012 I’m going to keep my hair properly maintained (read: removed), even if it’s just for me. There’s only one problem with that… I hate getting waxed. DREAD it. I would rather re-live a break-up with an ex-boyfriend than get waxed.

I’ve gone to the end of the world and back trying to find ways to make waxing easier on my pain tolerance, and I’ve found the 5 ways I (and all of my girlfriends– I had them test it) make waxing a lot less painful.

Don’t get waxed right before your period

Let’s face it: You don’t really need to be hair-free when you’re bleeding from you pleasure box, anyways. The skin around your vajay is at it’s most sensitive in the few days that lead up to your period. To avoid an unnecessary added discomfort, try doing it the week after your ant flow visited instead.

Diamonds aren’t a girl’s best friend– Ibuprofen is

Take an Asprin an hour before your appointment. Not only will it help numb your nerves so it’s less painful, but it also acts as a great anti-inflammatory, which can help ease the discomfort in the minutes and hours following your waxing.

Book your appointment for mid-afternoon

A lot of women don’t know this, but the time of day when your bodies have the highest pain threshold is between 3 and 5 PM. Simply scheduling your appointment during that time can decrease the pain by as much as 75%… That’s a big help!

Blast those headphones, baby!

Psychiatrists claim that most pain is mind over matter. What’s the best way to get your mind off of the task at hand? Listening to loud music! Because you’re dulling one of your senses (sound) to waxing (ie– You don’t have to hear the rip of the strip pulling out your hair), your mind doesn’t concentrate as much on the pain.

Don’t work out afterwards

Not working out? Score! Actually, after you’ve gotten waxed, you little partner is more prone to chafing and bacteria due to sweat. This can cause painful infections and will be generally uncomfortable for you, so skip the gym after you’ve gotten groomed!

So there you have it: 5 fool-proof ways to make your next trip to the salon a little more enjoyable.

I can’t count how many times I’ve had a friend say to me, “But he keeps saying he’s going to leave his (insert wife, girlfriend, baby mama, supposed-to-be-monogamist sex partner here).”

If you’re in the group of dreamers that believe at the end of the day the taken man you’re wrongfully screwing is actually going to leave the person he’s with for you, listen carefully: he’s not.

Engaging in a relationship with a taken man is going to lead to inevitable heartbreak. Why? Because by sleeping with him, you’re actually helping his relationship at home.

One of the biggest causes of fights in a marriage (besides money issues) is lack of intimacy. When couples lose the passion for each other, they start down the path of relationship ruin. Arguments start, the distance between the two gets bigger, and sexual frustrations get taken out on things unrelated to sex at all.

When you step in and sleep with a married man, you’re filling the sexual void that has been causing so many of his marital problems. Instead of you seducing him away from his wife, you’re simply taking away that sexual stress from his relationship, which will allow him and his wife to get back to a calmer life. By sleeping with him, you’re acting as a place for him to release his frustration, making him happier in his married life, as opposed to drawing him away from it.

If by some miracle you pull off a Lee Ann Rhymes and do get him to call it quits, then congratulations: You now have a boyfriend whom you know for a fact is willing to leave his wife for his mistress. You know the old saying ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater,’ well my friends, that’s a saying for a reason. When men show behavioral patterns of cheating on their partners, those patterns usually never stop. Just because you now love him doesn’t mean that his ability to love ‘em and leave ‘em have all but vanished. You have to face the music and realize that there’s a good chance that he’s going to be unfaithful on you the same way he was unfaithful with you.

If you’re in love with a married man, you should walk down one of two roads: The one that leads away from him, or the one that leads to a waiting room, where you can stay until he’s left his wife. Sleeping with the married man never works out, I know from experience.

Now the time has come for the ball to drop in Times Square, single ladies flock to the area to find the best romance and dating the Big Apple has to offer.

If you’re looking to spark a little something while visiting Manhattan this new year, check out these hot dating spots in the city!

The Kardashians aren’t a good example of much. They’re not a good example of how you should act in public, they’re not a good example of how to keep your business to yourself, and they’re most definitely not a good example of good career choices (I mean, really, Kim? A porn tape AND Playboy? And you don’t want to be known for your body? Right…). But we have to give credit where credit is due, and we have to say that Khloe Kardashian is a great example of a good girlfriend. Let us explain…

In this season of the never-ending Kardashian reality shows, we get to see the troubles Kim goes through with her new husband Kris. They went from dating to married to divorce in under a year, and now their new train wreck shows let us see it all unravel. Kris needs to train for his basketball season and wants to do it in Minnesota, so instead of going with him, Kim moves with her sister, baby daddy and baby to New York, then nags Kris until he moves there with her, jeopardizing his entire career.

I think we can all tell why that makes her a shitty wife. She didn’t have anything going on, and going to New York was for the sake of a reality show. If her husband had a real reason to be somewhere else, why would she not want to support that choice?

Khloe on the other hand did the exact opposite of what Kim did. She married Lamar Odom within 30 days of knowing him, and within 9 days of deciding to get married. And what did she do when she realized he worked all over the country and traveled daily? She packed up her cutest Chanel outfit and went with him! Why not? She had nothing else to do and was dedicated to making her relationship work.

We’re not telling the single ladies out there that you have to drop what you’re doing for your man, but this is a perfect example that everyone has to make sacrifices in order to make their relationship work.

So this poses our big question… How far would you go for the person you’re in love with?